69. Sources of trust
Trust is emotional,
since it is related to vulnerability, risk, fear, and hope. It depends on
character. With less self-confidence one feels more vulnerable and less
inclined to trust. It depends on experience. Disappointments reduce trust.
Trust can also be rational, in an analysis of the motives and conditions
for people to be reliable.
Trust
depends on conditions. Under threat of survival trust will be less. If there is
no alternative for partners, and they ‘are condemned to each other’, there is
pressure to make trust work, as among marriage partners, and government departments.
Rational
analysis goes as follows. As indicated in the previous item in this blog it is
useful to distinguish between reliance, which includes both control
and trust beyond control. Control can be based on formal hierarchy (the
trustor is the boss), a contract, dependence of the trustee on the trustor, or
the need for the trustee to maintain his/her reputation. In one-sided
dependence the most dependent submits to the power of the least dependent, and
while this is not necessarily fatal, it is wise to aim at a balance of mutual
dependence.
There is
also the possibility of a hostage: the trustor has something of value to
the trustee and can threaten to treat it badly unless the trustee acts
reliably. In old times that took the form of family or nobility surrendered to
the trustor. Nowadays it typically takes the form of information that is
sensitive to the trustee, such as knowledge concerning a product or technology.
The trustor can threaten to make information public or to pass it on to a
competitor of the trustee. Ït is a form of blackmail.
Beyond
control, trust can be based on norms, morality or ethics, or on personal
empathy or identification, or simply on routine: a relationship has become
habitual and the question of reliability no longer comes up. Empathy is the
ability to put oneself in the shoes of the partner, to understand his/her
position and how he/she thinks. Identification goes further, in feeling a bond,
thinking like the other, or making his/her fate part of one’s own. Empathy is
needed for trust, but identification may go too far, locking a relationship up.
Trust and
control are both complements (they go together) and substitutes (they replace
each other). Control can never be complete and where control ends one must
surrender to trust. And vice versa: trust can hardly be absolute, trust should
not be blind, and where it ends one may want to have some control. But the more
trust one has the less control one needs to exert, which gives more room and
flexibility for the relationship.
The greater
uncertainty is, concerning behaviour and conditions, and the more difficult it
is to monitor conduct of the trustee, the more difficult it is to exert
control, and the more one needs trust. That is the case, in particular, in
innovation. There, one must leave room for the unexpected. And uncertainty
limits the scope and force of contracts and monitoring of compliance.
I remind the reader that you are very
welcome to post a comment, to which I will then respond.
Trial identification for the purpose of empathy play a normal part in normal relationships, also between us and our children. Would you agree that it is partial or projective identification we so easily move towards,as we often think to know what is best for them and want them to survive,which locks them up? Do we trust their judgements enough to refrain from this and only show empathy? Or do we as parents all suffer from at least a mild form of what I would like to call: "protective projection"?
ReplyDeleteFransje, thank you for your comment. Your point that there are several forms of identification is a very good one. I will dedicate the following item of this blog to that point.
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